My 20 yr old son is leaving tomorrow. Moving to Pittsburgh for several good reasons. All positive. However, hard as it is to watch, I know it is all meant to be for him. I'm proud of him. Yet, I cry. Knowing this child took 25 1/2 hours to get into this world, and grew up right in front of me so quickly. Reflecton is key to motivation.
My family has taken in my daughters best friend. Mother kicked her out. As a Nurse, I couldn't and wouldn't watch this happen. 17 yrs old, and the child only asks to be loved. She's a good kid, works, and is being shown how to save, communicate, and enjoy a family life. I've been reflecting back on when I met this child. Shy, and very insecure. Now? She is glowing, smiling all the time, and she knows that she will see "I love you, have a good day" every morning. As well as, every night she hears "I love you, sleep well." Teenagers are just that. Rough time, but you never throw your child out. Love your kids. Tell them how much they are loved. It's not always about what you buy them, do for them. It's about what you say to them and mean. Show love in hugs, and teaching them to speak respectable. She is a highlight to my life.
Looking at my daughter over Christmas. Thinking back to when she was born. How I held her to my chest and promised her that I will not ever let anyone hurt her or harm her. Not thinking then that you can't be by their side all the time. I failed my child the day she was in a car accident. What I do know, that she doesn't believe. She's strong on the outside and begging for help on the inside. I love my daughter and she is my ultimate world. She has this laugh that is contagious, and tears as big as crockidiles. Only time will heal, and her faith in God is much stronger than mine. She will prevail, and even though I may feel helpless at times? I'm not. Simple talking, and listening are key.
My youngest son. Oh my! The child that makes me laugh everyday. Handsome man and he has a new love.... Girls! We have had our hard times. When he was little. He didn't have to do a whole lot for himself. Why? He had an older brother and sister that did it all. Even spoke for him. The most favorite memory.. Him in a high chair, eating donuts. My daughter and son sitting at the table as well. My oldest is done, and I'm cleaning him up. I come back and the last of the donuts are gone. When asking where the donuts went? My daughter blames her younger brother (who's in a high chair) for taking the last of the donuts... Have to love his sister. She did that a lot. He's still meek and mild. He's 15. Has a girlfriend, and is an absolute Mommys Boy!
Time flies when you have kids. You want the best for your children. Children don't come with instruction manuals. If they did? We would have all "perfect" kids in this world. We are all created equal, brought up to live, laying and love. Some don't have a fighting chance and live in pure survival mode. Parents, please take the time to spend with your kids. You only get one chance for memories. Make them good. Do everything you can to do for them all that they ask for. You may be so wrapped up into yourself, work, other issues and completely miss what was vitally important to them. Communicate, and hug them. Remember, don't go to bed at night without telling them that you love them.
Have a great day.
